GayBros

My beloved gaybro, I responded to you in a previous thread. This seems to be weighing on you quite a bit. I think you may need to ask yourself "why am I afraid of being gay?" Your sexuality is probably not as big of a deal as you think. But for some reason that is known only to you, this topic keeps intruding on your mind. I'm glad you feel safe asking these questions here. I'm glad this community exists for you. But you may need to do some more serious self reflection on where your true fears and concerns lie before we can give any helpful guidance.

Sometimes our sexualities don't match our romantic orientations or aesthetic attractions. You could be bisexual and gynoromantic. There are a ton of micro labels, but honestly it's okay to enjoy sex with a person and not want a relationship

Here's a short list of romantic orientations, and there's also a category for sexualities if you use the drop down menu.

If you had a relationship with that dynamic with a woman, would you consider it part of your sexuality?

You don't need to fit any particular label, but you could consider whether "bisexual and heteroromantic" resonates with you.

Still, even as a gay man, not all of my sexual relationships are romantic. It's okay for sexuality and romance to be separate at times!

Good news is, there’s no wrong answers here.

If I had to take a stab in the dark, you may be bi/pan. You can still find the “feminine” form more attractive, be selective about what kind of “masculine” form you find attractive, you may exclusively want to top (feeling of control, like you mentioned). It’s all valid!

Furthermore, I don’t think there’s anything to worry about enjoying casual sex (or sex for money/content) so long as you’re TRULY happy/comfortable/enjoying yourself and try to find a way out the moment you’re not.

To me it doesn’t seem terribly odd that two people may form a very strong non-romantic bond (friendship/brotherhood-like relationships) that end up having good sexual chemistry. The important thing is that you’re honest with your partner and yourself at all times about how you feel.

TLDR; If it feels right, don’t overthink it. We humans are too interesting to fit in neat little boxes.

Check out the different ancient Greek variations of love. Also don't worry so much about what it means. We all focus on defining things too much.

You can be horny to get off and not attracted to someone. It doesn't make you gay (not that there's anything wrong with being gay). I love ass sex with women and it doesn't feel the same, I agree. Cheers.

Don't worry about the labels, enjoy it for what it is for you.

You are friends with benefits. Don't overthink it. It works for you. As you said, a mouth's a mouth, and obviously a bum's a bum.

sounds gay, bro