Literally did it on impulse without even thinking about it so I wouldn't chicken out, so I blurted it out.

I said "I'm bisexual. I like both men and women. No more anti-gay stuff from you, ok?".

He said, "oh go away, you don't know what you like". I think he'll understand eventually, he needs time to think.

EDIT: Showed him this thread.

I said: "Look, this is what I said to you, these are my online friends who are happy for me that I came out as bisexual."

He said: "Oh you don't know what you're talking about, you've never had sex with a man or a woman before, until then you'll never know."

And yeah, I am still holding on to my v-card at 26. I was insecure about that years ago in high school, but I'm honestly glad I've waited to mature first.

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[–] 64 points 2 years ago* (2 children)

He said: "Oh you don't know what you're talking about, you've never had sex with a man or a woman before, until then you'll never know."

Ask your dad if he's had sex with a man to determine whether he is straight or not.

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  • [–] 47 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    the idea of someone thinking they're gay until they try gay sex is hilarious to me

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  • [–] 35 points 2 years ago*

    Honestly that is pretty funny. It sucks but I could not help but chuckle. Hopefully he comes around.

    Better than my brother doubling down on transphobia because he "has trans friends who are totally cool with slurs" like bro I assure you they are not.

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  • I'm happy that you were able to say it. I hope he understands better I the future. I always think about how fortunate bi guys like us are to live in a time and place where we are free to be our true selves. hexbear-bi

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  • [–] 28 points 2 years ago

    yes-hahaha-yes-r
    gator-bi

    Congrats comrade! Hope he does come around soon stalin-heart

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  • [–] 27 points 2 years ago* (4 children)

    just came out as dad to my bisexual partner

    edit; not that i'm not also bisexual ofc let me be clear

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  • [–] [S] 14 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    Damn, congratulations!!!

    (i can interpret this comment in one of two ways: telling your partner you have a kid, or you found out your partner is pregnant)

    But, uh, congrats either way!

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  • [–] 24 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    Actually I don’t have any human children I just meant dad as in im giving off those vibes or something now

    I do have a son though here he is

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  • [–] 26 points 2 years ago (8 children)

    lets-fucking-go Proud of you comrade, that's awesome and so difficult. I'm sorry he didn't accept it right away. Hopefully he comes around sicko-queer

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  • [–] [S] 23 points 2 years ago (7 children)

    Yeah, gonna come out to my mom when she gets home from work later, but I already know she's ok with this, she's had the "it's ok to be gay" conversation with me before.

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  • [–] 13 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    If you've had that conversation, she probably thinks you're gay...so bi may be easier news to swallow.

    Sorry your dad was kind of a dick about it but like...at least he was only kind of a dick about it?

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  • [–] [S] 12 points 2 years ago (5 children)

    Yeah, I know he loves me unconditionally. He's always been way more supportive of me about my drug addiction problems in the past than my mother was, so you win some you lose some.

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  • [–] 9 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    I'm making some leaps here but it sounded like he was using the virginity thing to just avoid the issue and also kinda make a dig at you. I don't know you or your dad tho. However based on what he said, if he's never fucked any dudes how does he know he isn't bi? And if they're not gonna be a problem about it and you are interested in getting laid, it should be overwhelmingly easy if.you can seek out other guys openly.

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  • [–] [S] 11 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    It kinda was a dig at me, but I think he just doesn't want to think about me being with a man, it probably grosses him out, so he's denying it.

    Not really interested in casual sex btw, waiting to fall in love first.

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  • [–] 8 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    Fair enough. Just figured I'd point out it's basically no effort in case you were.

    Anyway, glad it went well enough, does seem like a once the info settles you're probably fine kinda situation. Still a shitty reaction, there's no need to respond to something like that with an underhanded insult, but such is the way of Dads.

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  • [–] [S] 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child)

    Maybe this is too personal, but I just so happen to be sort of falling in love with a woman right now, and that kind of makes me sad because if that goes well my dad is probably just gonna keep denying I'm bi until he dies of old age.

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  • [–] 6 points 2 years ago

    Dont ever get into the trap of thinking you need to date say, a man to 'validate' your bi-ness - bisexuals are valid even if they've never been in a romantic or sexual relationship with anyone, you know yourself what you're attracted too.

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  • [–] [S] 23 points 2 years ago

    I swear to god this thread is the Evangelion Shinji congratulations moment of my life.

    congratulations

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  • [–] 22 points 2 years ago

    Proud of you possum-party

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  • [–] 21 points 2 years ago (10 children)

    Or, in the greatest dad-twist of all, he adds anti-straight stuff to his repertoire too. You can never escape.

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  • [–] 18 points 2 years ago (9 children)

    New type of guy: ace dad who imposes it on his kids

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  • [–] 15 points 2 years ago* (8 children)

    My dad is this type of guy, can confirm that it's not a new type

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  • [–] 18 points 2 years ago (7 children)

    In retrospect I suppose that isn't so uncommon. That's just a dad who's lost interest in sex and had a daughter Guy

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  • [–] 13 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    yeah in his case I think it's mainly ex-catholic + undiagnosed autism, but surely there are a lot of combos that add up to this type of guy

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  • [–] 10 points 2 years ago (5 children)

    I was going for identifies as Ace and 'dammit if you live under my roof so are you!' Kinda thing. But there is a wide variety of clades in the Dad phylla that fit the description although usually though strange means.

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  • [–] 13 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    smh when are we getting more funding into evolutionary Padrology so we can further study convergent branches of the Dad taxonomy

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  • [–] 11 points 2 years ago* (3 children)

    New art project unlocked! I'm gonna get a big giant piece of Bristol board and chart the Dad biological tree. This is already one of those too many ideas that I need to narrow down things

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  • [–] 8 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    dad taxonomy bristol stool chart go

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  • [–] 20 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I just told my Bisexual that i'm dad

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  • [–] 18 points 2 years ago

    Lol, your dad's the only one confused about what you're attracted to. Tell your dad to stop being dumb, people know who and what they like.

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  • [–] 17 points 2 years ago

    congratulations!

    biderman

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    Yo that's big of you and cool. My dad was kind of a dingus about my transness but he's super supportive and loving now, just took time. He's a total boomer too. They're just a bit calcified in the brain I think.

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    Congrats comrade!!! It takes a lot of courage to come out. Hopefully your dad comes around to it soon.

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  • [–] 10 points 2 years ago*

    Congratulations. It's a weight off your back.

    kirby-wave Hi cosecantphi's dad. He's being open and honest with you. It's ok. That's a good thing! Ask your son some questions. He might not know everything. He might have a preference one way or the other, but he likes both so just respect him and their partner, whover that may be and still be a loving father to them both. It's ok 👍Now hug! meow-hug

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    Congrats! It sucks that your dad is denying you, but hopefully that's a weight off your chest. meow-hug

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  • [–] 4 points 2 years ago

    He really pulled the you're bi, biyourself lol

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago

    !chapotraphouse is a comm about being bi with* your dad

    *with = "in the context of"

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