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Just curious. If we're sharing the bed and I roll to not face her, my cat yells and marches over in front of whatever side I'm now facing and if there's not enough room, that's a problem for me to fix.

Just curious if this is standard cat behaviour or another adorably needy quirk of mine?

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago
[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Not only facing me, but up IN my face to the point where it's hard to breathe.

3AM:

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 hours ago

"This is not close enough. I want to be within you, Father" - my cat every night

[–] [email protected] 23 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago) (2 children)

My 20-year-old baby girl insisted I face her as well. She would paw at the back of my head until I rolled over or moved her in front of me. She only started doing that over the past two years or so, but for about five years she would paw at me to lift the covers so she could snuggle under them or to hold her in my arms.

I had to put her to sleep just over two weeks ago on October 5. I miss her waking me up all the time for snuggles. I would trade every night of solid sleep in the world to have her with me still.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 hours ago

Big hugs, sounds like she was sweet

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 hours ago

She sounds adorable, sorry you had to lose her, I hope you're getting through it as best you can. My elderly cutie pie is deteriorating and loudly demands affection sporadically but I know I'd rather have her howling at me at whatever o'clock than not.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 hours ago

Yeah, I have to be facing him to start, but he often ends up behind me at some point in the night.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 9 hours ago

You have a Schrödinger's cat. It needs to be observed in order to collapse its wave function, or it can't know what state it's in.

You should probably get another one so they can observe each other.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 11 hours ago

Our cat will put us to bed. When we turn the light off she will lay on my hip for 5-15 minutes then once she’s convinced I’m asleep (I’m not) she will hop off the bed and go do cat things (she tells us it’s catslified and we can’t know she does these cat things). She sometimes will lay on my wife for 30 seconds, maybe a minute but always lays on me. She’ll pace around too until I lay on my side so she can put me to bed.

In the winter she’ll come back and snuggle up with one of us because she likes the warmth and we keep it cooler at night. In the summer she’ll lays a bit further away near one of us (usually pinning the blanket down so I can’t get up). She is truly a creature of habit.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Cat 1. Sleeps at the end of the bed. Cat 2, 3, 4 will sleep against my butt, not usually at the same time. Cat 5 sleeps on my second second pillow. Cat six sleeps against my chest and screams at me as he crawls back in to place after I roll over.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 hours ago

Too many cats.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 hours ago

It depends how much tossing and turning I’m doing. If I can find a comfortable spot and I’m not moving around too much, he’s the little spoon. And glares at me until I tuck him in.

If I’m moving around a lot trying to get comfortable, he’ll go sleep at my feet.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 14 hours ago

My siamese liked to sleep between my legs, my tortie likes taking the pillow as her property and my other cat waits for me to stay still, then she very gently lies parallel to one of my arms or legs.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

I have two cats and neither do this, but one wants to put her face as close to my mouth as possible. I can’t trust her though because sometimes she’ll touch my lips with her paw which is gross, and other times she’ll just sneeze onto my face from 0.5” away.

The other likes to sleep on me but panics every time I move even a little bit.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Imaging sleeping over a freaking elefant and you suddenly feels like the asshole is rolling. Nope, nope, nope

[–] [email protected] 9 points 13 hours ago

Are you calling me fat?

(jk, yeah I get it, but he chooses to snuggle with the elephant!)

[–] [email protected] 14 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Classic cat.

I'd only add the two gross things that mine did while they were kittens is that they enjoyed licking my nose and eyes, for reasons known only to cats. That's a hell of an alarm clock.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 hours ago

They're telling you it's morning.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

My cat gets around this by sleeping on my neck

[–] [email protected] 12 points 15 hours ago

Trust a cat to find the least convenient "compromise."

[–] [email protected] 14 points 16 hours ago

This might be blasphemy in this sub, but my dog has to sleep on my pillow. Doesn't matter if there is another of the same pillow right next to it. She has to have some part of her body on the same one I'm on. Usually, she'll be there before I get to bed and hogging the whole pillow.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 17 hours ago (3 children)

Mine will only sleep on my hip. If I roll over and he falls off? Back on other hip.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 16 hours ago

I have two cats, one does this.

If I adjust at all he jumps off the bed, grumbles and runs to the hallway. Then he glares at me from the darkness until he’s sure I won’t move again and comes back to sit in the exact same position.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Similar, but with my feet/ankles. She wants to be close, but isn’t a big fan of petting. I’m not always great at respecting that desire, so we compromise like this.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 16 hours ago

I've yet to meet a cat that doesn't love a well done headscritch.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 15 hours ago

That seems wild but adorable.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 16 hours ago

My cat used to do this. She always had to be the small spoon

[–] [email protected] 15 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

My cat exhibits the same behavior

[–] [email protected] 8 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Glad mine isn't the only one!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 14 hours ago

I have one that does this, too.

It usually doesn’t last super long; I get too hot with him near my chest, and he gets antsy if I’m not perfectly still. 🤷‍♂️

[–] [email protected] 17 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago) (1 children)

They sleep on the space next to me. It’s a queen-sized bed, so there’s plenty of space. I used to sleep on the sofa and they’d get ~~in~~ on my chest, mostly during cold months.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

How did you survive the inverted chest bursting?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 13 hours ago

Ha, I couldn't understand this comment until I looked back and saw my mistake.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 16 hours ago

We have one that does the hip thing, another that sleeps near the feet end. The first cat I had was also a feet sleeper but would sometimes snuggle like the small spoon. If I were to move at all, it was off to the couch and staring at me.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

My girl sleeps in my face. Like she's a pillow that I have to touch. it doesn't bother me too much because I sleep belly up (yes like a dead person) but when I turn to be on my side, if I'm not facing her, she will stand and go over my head to the other side util she lays down on my face. Not.very gpod.for alergies but I think she is so sweet that I just let her

I also have a queen size and another cat and a dog and all of them sleep with me (not forced but they want so I let)

[–] [email protected] 7 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I upgraded from a twin to queen but now thr cat feels more comfortable in the bed if it's just us. But I've been trained by twin bed relationships to sleep on one side so it's been an unlearning process. And sometimes when I'm on the side and she's in the middle I have less space than I did with the twin!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 hours ago

i know... I don't push my cat either, just sleep in less space lol

[–] [email protected] 8 points 15 hours ago

I like to lay on my side in bed and read, and my cat will snuggle up in front of me. Often I'll later flip around, and we'll have each others' back.

I tend to flip around a lot before falling asleep, so she'll usually go lay at my feet (preferably on my blanket), but she's good as long as she's close.

Don't cats have a protective instinct as well, where they face away from one while being comfy together?

[–] [email protected] 9 points 16 hours ago

Haven't experienced that with my cats. Mostly they just want the warmth of armpits or for my legs to make a convenient bed for them.