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It's important to remember that you don't owe it to anyone to engage in a comment fight. If someone decides to be grouchy and try to pull you into an argument, you can just ignore it and move on with your day.
I post a lot of memes across Lemmy, and you'd be surprised (or maybe not) how often someone goes out of their way to be upset and attempt to bait me or others into arguing with them. I think some people just enjoy being mad, but I'm not one of them, so I've decided that it's not worth the mental energy to engage with that.
Leaning into the "ThePicardManuever is half of lemmy" meme, it would be terrible if you (or anyone!) were cowed by downvotes
I don't think it's that people like being mad. I think it's that they just care about things and think they're important. It's very nice to be able to be carefree, but a lot of people place things like honour or duty or morality above their own happiness at times.
Replying to posts online shouldn't be sufficient to fulfill those things for you anyway. Go outside and be useful if that's so what you find fulfilling. It's highly unlikely you'll change anyone's mind on social media. People use it to have their biases reinforced.