Men's Liberation
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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
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I was on about how children grow up and the lack of discourse and ability to think for themselves. I'm sorry you were unable to understand that and had to take the extreme examples only.
Because they are. Everything is a competition, work, housing, relationships, sex, money that's just how it is. Sure it's not the same as a foot race competition but you still competing against others that's the defintion of the word.
That's not distributing a resource though. You said that. All I was musing was that it would be healthier if people and society if people weren't chasing what they want all the time. If some guys weren't fucking a different girl everyweek and chasing that high, if guys weren't trying to emulate those guys just to get one bit of positive attention from women, if women weren't casually shagging some guy out of their league then remaining single because they "can't get a good guy" but really they been fucking guys who have no interest in settling they just been playing the game. I think society would be better. How that happens I don't know. If you dont agree with that you must look fondly on the pickup cluture as much as the "artist" do. Education probably the answer maybe something like mens clubs could be one example as I said before were you can get intergenerational knowledge and guys can tell younguns what's important in life. But really it's a difficult problem and whether you agree or not I don't think that's the optimal state of society, what is I don't know.
Weirdly I have had this abuse from women. Not from guys when I was a virgin as a child, but I got it from girls. I didnt get it from guys either, i did get ribbed when I hit on a girl and failed but only in a light humoured funny way, but I did get it from girls. Which seeing as I'm 6'1 and got the nickname "top shagger" in my university rugby club it really goes to show how high the bar is for girls and how hurtful they actually try to be. Like I said I'm 6'1 and slept around so I'm not really bothered, but I can see and empathise with others. I don't think it's fair to out of the blue say things like "if you was taller girls would like you". But whatever, girls seem to think that's a good thing to say.
What an open wound of a comment.
And not in any of the ways you seem to think.