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[–] [email protected] 25 points 8 months ago

Yes, by not introducing trauma of being micromanaged, parented too much and by allowing them personal space.

By understanding that this doesn't mean kids don't need help, they need a lot of it, but you don't come arrogantly with your mind made up about what kind of help exactly they need.

By being respectful of their borders in interests also, because when a kid is interested in anything at all, and the parent thinks it's cool to just intervene "helping" in that interest and "participating" without being invited, especially publicly, that's worse than bullying.

And also doing that thing which may seem stone age - never ever support anybody from the outside against your kid. Teachers, other kids' parents, neighbors, anybody. If your kid does something wrong, you talk. But you don't turn it into something you discuss and judge behind their back together with teachers or whoever else and then come to your kid with your opinion. That's called family values and it really is important.

In short, respect.

Militant right ideologies are attractive for people who feel themselves disrespected. Idealistic ideologies (not only right) are attractive for people who lack happiness. Repressive ideologies (again not only right) are attractive for people who feel themselves weak. Conspiracy theories are attractive for people who feel lost. Reactionary ideologies are attractive for people who feel rejected.