me_irl

Wow, thanks for your effort and empathy. We did in fact go through two rounds of IVF. No insurance, so we did it abroad. It was cheaper, but absolutely a major financial outlay for us.

Worse than the monetary cost was the emotional one. Miscarriages are fucking horrible under 'normal' circumstances, but are somehow worse when you've put extra faith in medical professionals and the clinical process meant to greatly increase your chances of having a baby.

After the first ordeal, I begged my wife not to go through it again. Ultimately I relented since she felt so strongly that she was going to make the trip herself. I couldn't let her do it without support. I am not bullshitting you when I say I absolutely could not do it another time.

In case you or anyone else is wondering, we were never against adoption, but it is also a difficult and expensive process, and at the time we were afraid to apply for reasons I won't get into.