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My man, I've been of your opinions, and I have a kid now.
What the person you're replying to is saying isn't condescending. He's not saying that he is more important or more intelligent than you. He's not saying that he necessarily has a better life than you, or that your choice not to have kids makes you lesser.
The strongest thing he's said is that you, as someone without a kid, cannot understand the full experience of having one. Same as how (assuming you aren't a famous actor), will never know what it's like to be a famous actor.
It's simple fact. Not good, not bad.
People with kids will never know what it's like to not have kids as you get older amd more established. I'll never know what it's like to have a foot long schlong.
Not every kid is a little shit, just like not every man is a misogynist. There's also the aspect that the noisy and disturbing children are going to stick our far more than any who are behaving. You don't remember every car that drives reasonably, or every public transportation rider that ensures they aren't a nuisance, during your commute.
Please stop projecting your personal frustration with children on the rest of the world, then getting offended when not everyone agrees.
The only reason any of you randos know anything about my opinion is that you're projecting your need to have children onto the world. "You would never understand until you have kids!" "They change your life and make you whole!" "When are you having kids??" We're sick of hearing it.
Good for you that you like your choice, just let me have peace with mine, it was absolutely the right choice. Many parents regret their choice, you can tell when they're angry all the time. Don't encourage more of that, full stop.