See, I can be demeaning too!

Good thing you explained what you were going for because it was kind of hard to follow.

You made an assertion about all americans:

like (as an American) we’ll just do this

and someone wished to dispute it based on their own experience.

You described a behaviour as gross and indicate that it is common in your social circles. How is it demeaning to says that your social circles are gross? @htrayl is agreeing with you