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Are there a lot of women who like submissive men ? (lemm.ee)

submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Or, would you say most women actually perfer submissive men?

To be more specific, I'm talking about men who are submissive in their role in the relationship as a partner and also sexually.

It's an interesting, I guess, maybe taboo sort of topic that I would like opinions on.

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 9 months ago (2 children)

In my experience, on the whole, no. I’ve found being a submissive man actively repulses many women, some will entertain it but aren’t into it, and a very small minority enjoy being dominant- and a significant number of those charge for it.

Pro dommes wouldn’t be a thing if submissive men were more universally accepted.

There’s all kinds of reasons for this and there is no one size fits all answer. I speak only from my experience.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Pro dommes would absolutely be a thing, dungeons aren't cheap

[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

It’s supply and demand. There are far more men with submissive desires than there are women who are accepting of them, which is why the market for pro dommes exist in the first place.

I’m sure it would be around anyway though, just not as big

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

If we’re talking supply and demand, I’d say it’s why they’re so expensive.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

…yeah

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

This is my experience too. Thank you for telling the truth.

A friend who was into the kink scene once told me there were definitely dominant women around. But then we did a scene together, and since then I don’t trust that guy’s conception of sex at all. His whole thing was to torture me. Honestly I don’t think the sex was even a thing for him. He’d be perfectly happy just hurting people for the mob or something.