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I'm a millennial and it sounds just like me and the majority of people I know. A friend of mine just gave up during this Christmas because she wasn't feeling well and her manager kept pressuring her and making her feel guilty. I can tell you my friend is a nice and honest woman, but this just scared her and made it even harder to return. She's completely freaking out now and started drinking and it takes me a lot of effort to support her.
I've been there myself too. Loved my job. Perfect track record for a year. Then suddenly for a day I had 5 bosses, each giving me conflicting orders. I clearly communicated multiple times that it doesn't work and that I need one boss. I'm sure that if they would've spoken to me as a human being that I would've continued. I cared and they didn't.
But ya then the next day I was ready to go but at my door this powerful dread came over me and I simply froze. And then you just start feeling worse due to guilt and so on and it becomes harder to overcome that barrier. After a month I managed to finally overcome my fear and return to the same job with the same people! I'm still proud of that. Unfortunately there was a lingering resentment from my manager's side. I decided to move and do something else, eventhough I loved that job and I was good at it.
It's not a comment on you, because I wasn't there. But in all the situations this happened to my friends and me it was always due to a lack of half decent communication. One could argue that a manager should be good at listening.