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Does the reddit style format breed toxicity? (lemmy.ml)
submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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Does the reddit style format inherently make for a toxic environment? Or is it a culture of toxicity from the influx of reditors? For lack of a beter example, on stackoverflow, when someone down votes you, it comes with a comment saying how to improve. On mastodon, people can't downvote you. These platforms are a joy to use, lemmy is depressing if you post. Its depressing because every post or comment, no mater the quality comes with downvotes, and usually no criticism to accompany it, you are left not knowing if youve made a mistake, or if its just trolls, bots, or idiots. At the end you feel insulted not improved. What do you think?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 24 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

This sparks a few different thoughts for me:

  1. I believe there are a few Lemmy instances that don't have downvotes enabled. (Beehaw might be one of them, but don't quote me on that.) If downvotes are a stress point for you, you could try joining one of those instances.
  2. I personally find both upvotes and downvotes to be useful as a way for me to quickly see the community's reaction to a piece of content. If I'm scrolling through my feed and see a post with many downvotes and few upvotes, for example, I know that post is unlikely to interest me and will move on. Conversely, a highly upvoted post or one with a mix of both upvotes and downvotes is more likely to have a good conversation in the comments in my experience.
  3. If I make a post that receives a large number of downvotes - or if most of my posts tend to be downvoted - that's a signal to me that I'm either not communicating my message well (confusing, passive aggressive, etc.) or that my message itself may not be welcome (hate speech, misinformation, etc.). In either case, I use that as a mental trigger for me to reflect on my posts rather than a reason to become unhappy with the community/platform as a whole.
[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I would also add that getting a post mass downvoted can be a sign that a community might not be a good fit for you.

Like, using reddit as an example, if you see someone spreading anti-lgbt hate and getting upvoted, but when you try to be like "Hey that's not cool" or explain why they're wrong you get massively downvoted, it can be a really good sign that maybe it's not a great place.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I agree, and I would extend this thought to also include situations where it's simply the wrong audience for your post. The content itself may not have anything wrong with it, but if you post a casual joke or comment without much depth in a community that's built on deep conversations and well thought out replies, for example, you're likely to be downvoted simply because the context wasn't appropriate.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Great point.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Thank you, this is very helpful and well thought out