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“My Brother Is So Far Gone”: How Male Influencers Turned The Men In These People’s Lives Toxic
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I think the identity of men is unstable nowdays.
A lot of people don't know what is to be a man today, so they go back to the old ways when it's was simple for then and bad for woman.
The nuances and uncertainty of modern life is too much for some people usually need success model's to follow to feel safe.
It's not the identity of males that is the problem ... it's the loss of power, privilege and status and the idea that males, especially white males are supposed to be equals to every other human on the planet.
The fact that this is changing is what is very upsetting to males ... especially white males.
Most humans wants to be privileged and fulfilled.
The question is how to get there.
The male privilege can vary drastically.Let's say you're talking about a poor white man or a wealthy one. Wealthy white man still has patriarchal families and tradicional values.
The poor and middle class man are the most affected, they don't know how to progress to get the milestones of life, so they search for answers on how to behave, how to get a job, how to create a family, how to be respected.
So they build a identity of a man to be portrayed in society, this can lead to integration of toxic masculinity traits, it will also get worse with isolation, but a stable and reasonable person can help listening and speaking about the challenges.