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It’s because mental illness is so normalized, anything approaching normal and healthy is pathologized.
I'd trade my ADHD for being normal every day of the week. It's even worse when people tell you about how they have ADHD because they are just annoying. And i sit there thinking: yeah i know what you mean, sometimes i don't take my ADHD meds, because i have ADHD, and then i don't answer text messages or pay bills for a few month, lol so random and fun.
Recognizing your illness and doing what you need to do, especially self-care, is healthy and admirable. Wishing you all the best.
Hearing people whine is worse than having the condition?
Hearing people dismiss your condition is pretty fucking frustrating. Idk about worse but it is highly irritating.
Sure, acknowledged. But HAVING the condition in the first place has to be a greater issue, to me obviously.
And I totally agree with that. If I had to pick only one to fix it would be the condition, no contest.
No, they're just saying it's really annoying when people attribute an ordinary behavior to a mental disorder that you really struggle with.
"it's even worse"
He's not saying hearing stuff like that is worse than having adhd, he's saying that he feels even worse than normal when hearing that. Yes it's phrased ambiguously, but you're seemingly interpreting it as wrong as you can so you can feel superior
Why are you assuming my motives? You have zero evidence based on the words.
I questioned the specific words they used. That's all. Semantics matter.
Having a condition is always worse than hearing people chirp.
Then you need to work on your reading comprehension. With all due respect....
Yeah I think they just meant the turn of phrase to be: "worse still" or "and on top of that".
PS:
I'm still not making sense probably.
I think they meant it like
Disorder is bad but the combination of disorder PLUS people chirping is even worse.
E.g., it's bad enough I smashed my foot dropping a brick on it but on top of that I stubbed my toe, too.
Smashing my food is bad but even worse is [also] subbing my toe [on top of the already smashed foot]
Alternate take: mental illness continues to be widely misunderstood.
I do agree. Are my words somehow offensive or dismissive?
Thanks for asking. Not offensive to me personally just felt like it didn't quite capture what what's going on in my view.
Idk, when I was growing up, add/adhd, dyslexia, asd were unidentified, so I’m trying to learn because i feel I’ve two of the three conditions. I muddle through as best I can.
Same. Autism was only for the most extreme cases as far as I knew and ADHD wasn't diagnosed often. I didn't get diagnosed until I was 40.
Wow. Have things improved since?
Absolutely. Between therapy and meds it has definitely helped me in pretty much every area of my life. It's still challenging but less so.
I’m so happy you got treatment that works for you; in a just society, everyone could.
Too true. Healthcare including mental health care is a right. Nobody should suffer because they lack funds.
When we stop funding death, destruction and climate extinction, we can fund life more abundantly. Yes, I’ma dreamer; it mitigates the nightmare our societies currently fund.