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[-] [email protected] 32 points 2 years ago

I had a friend in college that would just say, "So, what's your deal?"

I'm shocked at how well it worked. Open ended, so you only get what they're willing to talk about, but they'll still be ok talking.

[-] [email protected] 17 points 2 years ago

Sounds agressive. Doubt it would work in all circles.

[-] [email protected] 10 points 2 years ago

Delivery had a lot to do with softening the approach.

Definitely not for all situations, but to be fair, no approach could be.

[-] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago

"What's YOUR deal?" sounds pretty aggressive, "what's your DEAL?" sounds borderline inflammatory, but I think there's a very neutral delivery without particular stress that sounds more like an open ended question than an aggression. Still, probably not great around fully sober folks.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago

It might work in a college environment but if as an adult someone would ask me that I would not take it kindly.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago

So, what is your deal? What have you been up too?

[-] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago

What did you say about my mother?!

[-] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

very neutral delivery without particular stress that sounds more like an open ended question

So. WHAT's your deal?

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