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[–] [email protected] 42 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Do something active that allows for conversation. Things like movies are trash for a first date. You can't talk, there's no way to get to know the other person.

Something like a park, or a light hike is ideal. You get to experience something together in a conversational atmosphere. Where I grew up there's a nice park by the river. It's well lit, safe, and relatively public; while still being a beautiful place to visit. It helps everyone involved feel safe and gives ample time to chat and see the sights.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I agree. Some may think it’s boring but if you have never met each other a walk in public is a good start. It’s low stress for both and somehow talking feels very natural while walking.

You can plan a circle-route to return to the start. If you’re enjoying yourself, you can sak if your companion wants to continue walking or go for a coffee/drink. It gives them an escape route if they’re not feeling it but if they agree you know that they’re probably enjoying themselves!