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I don’t think anyone below the age of 50 has seriously believed in “happy wife, happy life”. It’s very much a boomer mentality of “pick someone you don’t love and suffer through the relationship forever”
I did for a bit but the years went by and sure she's happy, but am I?
It's been 5 years and we're still together.
I think we both know it's time.
It's rough, man. Kids.
My dreams are screaming at me.
Am I supposed to 'follow my dreams'? Is it literal?
I'm not sure what I want anymore, whether I'd be happier single. My subconscious yawps but I ignore it.
Last night I was cheating with 3 of my ex's, at once, in my sleep. She said I was sleep screaming again, but I only remember the spice I felt for life. It's been so long.
Yikes dude. You need some counselling.
That's my pro tip that is disappointing lmao
It looks worse than it is because I tried to make it poetic. Though, therapy only works if you're actually honest with your therapist about everything (and you can truthfully say you aren't comfortable discussing something at that time, remaining honest and expressing boundaries) but I'm not even being honest with myself. When I can get to that point and get the courage to make the choices I know deep down are right for me, then maybe I'll try therapy again.
I can understand. Be honest and sincere to yourself. This is the only pro tip I keep forever.
Buddy I think it’s time to talk to your wife.