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Who cares about red flags in people. What are your green flags (lemm.ee)
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[โ€“] -1 points 2 years ago (1 child)

Red flag for me. I'm all for people having hobbies, but bringing up niche hobbies from childhood would not be great. I'm sure 2 fans would get along great. However, it would be odd to bring up with another adult who is not a known fan.

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  • [โ€“] 6 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Why is Pokemon exclusively a childhood thing?

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  • [โ€“] 0 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    It's a show marketed at kids. Manu adults like it as they grew up with it. Manu adultsike the games, but those unfamiliar are not starting as adults.

    For me, it's not about having a childhood hobby you still enjoy. It's about not having the social awareness to not being it up on a first date. In context, sure, why not, if you walked by a poster or kid playing and it became a topic of conversation. But as a topic of conversation whose purpose is to get to know each other, I'd be worried they never matured.

    I still.play video games from my childhood almost daily, when I get the chance. I won't chat about combos or new sf6 characters with strangers or a first date.

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  • [โ€“] 4 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Pokemon being marketed to kids isn't the same as Pokemon being a kids' game, especially when a huge chunk of the community around the franchise are late teens/adults. Sure, don't bring it up randomly, but I honestly don't see how games are different from sports, knitting, anime, or any other hobby in that regard. Someone being passionate about something --whether it's games or anything else-- shouldn't really impact your perception of their maturity.

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  • [โ€“] 1 point 2 years ago

    Yes, but that's partly my point. The teens and adults that are fans are only fans due to playing as kids, likely due to marketing to them. That's not to say any game is good or bad, but to me it's a sign of immaturity to bring it up. I'd have similar red flags with someone discussing non kid hobbies if I showed little interest. If someone wants to chat football or handbags, I'd equally want out. It's a know your audience problem. If have no problem dating a Pokemon fan and I'd probably take up the game to play with them. My issue is being so into it it's all you want to talk about on a first date. It would strine me as immature.

    If we were discussing hobbies and they briefly brought it up, that wouldn't be a red flag, per se.

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