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Congratulations! Is dilation something you have to do forever or only for a while?
Not speaking from experience, just what I’ve read.
You don’t have to dilate for forever per se. As time goes on you have to do dilation like activities less and less often to maintain it. I’m not sure if there’s a lower limit to how often, but I think there is. Also note I said “dilation like activities”. So after a while, it doesn’t strictly have to be dilation.
If I’ve said anything wrong, please let me know. Again, this is just what I remember from reading and isn’t something I’ve experienced myself.
Yeah, right now it's 3 times a day, goes down to 2 then 1 and then 1-2 times a week depending on if you have penetrative sex regularly.
My understanding is that you have to keep up something or lose depth, but that the time between gets so it can be a weekly event or so, rather than daily, but that that also depends on method. Dr Jun, and I'm not sure who else, do a hybrid flap peritoneal surgery where the peritoneal tissue stays connected inside and very rarely loses depth.
Depends on your surgical program how often you have to, but yes if you want to maintain a certain depth. Over time the vaginal cavity closes due to pressure from your other organs. Penetrative sex is a reasonable substitute for dilation, and having it regularly performs the same function as dilating.