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How do I tell someone that a mutual friend is trans without dead naming them? (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Context: I am visiting a high school friend. Another friend who we both knew in high school has posted some interesting things recently. This friend has changed their name, but the friend I am visiting is not following them and is not aware of their transition.

How do I bring up this friend without dead naming them?

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (9 children)

Regarding your first comment, please see my other reply. I understand not all transitions are straightforward regarding safety but this is not the case here.

Essentially, saying "Do you remember Sarah Morgan?" (negative response) "She used to go by Brett" would generally be acceptable?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (3 children)

How dare you deadname Sarah, the lodge in New Atlantis will hear about this and you'll be excommunicated from Constellation.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm sure this is a very funny joke I don't get. Yes, I know, I'm sure I'm great at parties too.

In case it was unclear: obviously both names are fake.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Sarah Morgan is the name of a character from the game Starfield, a Science Fiction self-titled "Nasapunk" role-playing game by Bethesda softworks that just released in September.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Ah, yes, I'm aware of Starfield, just not that there's someone named Sarah Morgan in it. I legitimately just picked a generic first and last name.

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