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While funny, please don't be afraid to tell your therapist.
If they put me in grippy socks for having suicidal idealation I would probably have my own dedicated room.
Therapists are there to help us with this shit, not make us fear getting better. If your therapist doesn't know, they can't help.
I didn't have my own room when they put me in there for suicidal thoughts, and insurance wanted me out before I was well, so they discharged me with no way home
True. They exhaust all other efforts before putting you in. It's super expensive and its a lot healthier to be home if you can
For me, it was the fucking hotline that did it. They asked me if I had a plan, and I said yes, because I absolutely had a plan for exactly how I'd do it, still do. Apparently, that gets interpreted as "I plan to do it."
If I was going to actually do it, do you think I'd be calling the helpline? Hell, no!
I'm never calling that damn number again.
Some therapists will help, others won't. Some psych wards will help, others will give you more trauma. I recommend caution and research before telling a therapist about suicidal thoughts. I had a real bad experience at the behavioral health emergency center in Charlotte NC, and that wasn't even overnight. I've heard good things about some residential places here in Oregon.
This may depend on the country but I as a therapist ask everyone anyway. And I've experienced many, many people over the years being afraid of speaking up. It's always a moment of relief when it's out there and they realize I'm not freaking out over it.
I've pretty much heard it all. Including the various ways people try to approach the subject while still unsure how I will react. And I do think that is something you could try if you're unsure about your therapist - talk to them about your suicidal thoughts and see how they react before you confirm plans or attempts.
Chances are of course they can get quite a bit from your way of talking about it, because you're definitely not the first person with those thoughts in front of them. The thing is - suicidal ideation is, depending on the type of disorder, quite common. If we'd admitted anyone who thought about suicide to a psych ward immediately they would be bursting at the seams and we'd get nothing done at all. So that's not happening. As long as you can convincingly agree with your therapist on a plan forward (which could mean: Okay, I promise not to kill myself until next Tuesday) you don't have to be admitted if you don't want to. Which also would be an option of course. Psychiatric wards are emergency departments. They are supposed to be there for you when you're seeing no light at all and in my experience, at least where I live and work, in fact have saved quite a few lifes.