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if i went to a friends wedding, and they were charging for water, i would just leave. is this even a thing cause it sounds fake as hell.
I think the joke is about caterers doing this. Book a photographer session vs a wedding photographer and the prices are going to be drastically different.
It's the BS fee. You're not just paying for the pictures, the water or the food. You are paying for them to put up with yours, your family and guest's BS for several hours, plus the nightmarish logistical stress of making it all happen flawlessly on time.
This - I'm a photographer and I try to avoid doing weddings, even though they pay more, because of the sheer stress involved.
Not just that, but the expectations are almost always significantly higher (and, in return, the effort that you as a consumer get from those vendors should also be higher.) Speaking from the position of someone who supplies the cake industry, for example, you're not just getting "a cake". You're getting a multi-tier work of edible art that took that cake decorator four times longer to make, requires a special setup for transportation, and usually requires another half hour to an hour of the decorator's time to fully set up once on site. Any old cake could feed 100 people, sure, but do you really want pictures of a flat single layer cake decorated with ugly, mushy balloons half-assedly piped on by the resident 18 year old at your grocery store, transported in a flimsy cardstock box in Aunt Hester's 1970 woody wagon so that half the icing is stuck on the top of the box? If you do, great! You can save a lot of money that way, for sure. But most people want a 3-4 tier cake, decorated immaculately with flawless buttercream and covered in flowers. That shit requires effort, and effort means money.
This seems to me more a problem of people wanting to much.
At my cousin's wedding the bride made her own cake. And they didn't want a huge wedding so it only had to feed like 20 people instead 100.
The problem here is the absurd extravagance that people want in a wedding.
Oh, not arguing that. Just pointing out that this is a large part of why price goes up when you mention the word "wedding". Even if a particular individual doesn't care to have absolutely top-tier perfect service, they're in the minority - and those vendors in the wedding industry price their services to fulfill the expectations of the norm, not the exception.
Normal dress: 1000 dollars
Wedding dress: 10000 dollars
Check out the price of wedding cakes vs similar amounts of normal cake
There is an acceptable markup for a tiered and decorated wedding cake vs a grocery store sheet cake. There are also lots of places that charge way above that rate.