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How do I stop envying prettier women? (lemmy.world)
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I honestly hate myself for still feeling this way at 23. Whenever I’m out, I always feel like the ugliest girl in the room, and it literally makes me feel completely worthless. It sucks watching how nicely everyone treats beautiful women. Nobody ever says anything mean to them. Guys are always looking out for them, and other girls always have their back. They get this pass in life that I’ve never had. No one has ever helped or protected me except my parents.I’ve learned to just rely on myself, because my parents won't be around forever and nobody else gives a damn about me. Maybe this is how it should be.

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[–] 13 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

still feeling this way at 23

Implying 23 is an advanced age or when someone achieves great wisdom is incorrect. There's a long way to go and a lot to learn.

how nicely everyone treats beautiful women

It is called sexual capital. It is a genuine advantage, but only one of many in an unfair world. Some are born with financial advantage, or social advantage, or aesthetic advantage, etc.

You have no choice but to make the best of what you've got. Anyone can capitalise on what they have. I'd argue the majority of attracting people's positive attention and admiration has to do with being clean, neat, groomed, well dressed, sociable, keeping physically fit and looking after your skin (all things you can change). Some even may find it liberating that they don't get unwanted attention and can be judged on their other merits besides just their looks.

It is difficult to undo social programming, but you can be attractive in very many ways if you can let go of the narrow way society portrays attractiveness in the media.

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