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[–] 0 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 1 hour ago) (1 child)

No. I don't need to heal. I'm healed.

I know I'm healed because instead of listening to people lecture me how damaged I am, I ignore them. Because that is what everyone in my life used to do, lecture me how damaged I am for not being like them and how 'concerned' they are for me. It's manipulation to setup a power dynamic where they are 'normal' and you are 'faulty' so later on they can convince you to do what they want.

Just like the lady last winter I tried to date who lectured me I am mentally ill and need therapy if I am happy driving a basic car, because a 'well-adjusted person has ambition and self respect and would want to drive a $100,000 car.' She drove a $70K car. She genuinely thought I was mentally ill. I genuinely thought she was a stupid idiot and I lost all respect/desire for her when she voiced her 'concern' for me.

I'd love to meet someone someday who thinks it's OK to be happy with driving a basic car, but I have literally never met such a person in my life. They might exist out there somewhere but I have never met them. Most folks I meet, sadly, just want to lecture me on how I need to have a more expensive one or how 'disappointed' they in me for driving such a 'cheap car' and how I have 'no self respect' if I do so. They also tell me how I have 'no self respect' because I don't own $5,000 suit and shit like that.

Weird how that works.

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