Speak for yourself. When I've been sick my gf/family told me to go f myself and what an asshole I am for getting sick. Literally nobody is ever going to take care of me, and never has. When my dad was dying, my 5 year old girlfriend didn't help, she broke up with me for 'being a loser who is sad about his stupid dad'. Oh and then called me up asking me for money after we broke up. Most of my gfs/friends actively tried to sabotage the progress in my life and would argue against me doing the things that improved my life. Working out, not drinking, eating right, saving, investing, were all labeled 'gay, stupid, weird, queer'.

At the end of my days, people add very little to my life, and having them in my life results in a net negative. Which is precisely why excluding them in my life has lead to massive gains in my health, happiness, and wealth. I can work out, eat right, and pursue my passions and grow my career skills without repeatedly being told how awful and shitty doing those things are, and what I should be doing with my life is sitting on my ass drinking booze, eating fast food, and watching shitty sitcoms every night.

You can lecture me all you want, but I've never had anyone in my life really add anything of value or given me any genuine support and the second I ask for help they tell me what a piece of shit I am and then start asking me for help. Anytime I called anyone up to try and share good news, like getting a $35,000 raise, buying a home, or adopting my pets, I was told how shitty I was and then asked for money by so called 'friend' or family member or other person who supposedly 'cares' about me and lecturing me what an asshole I am because they 'deserve' my money more than I do and I shouldn't be able to have a home, or pets, or a car, or a great job.

Which is to say, without all that horrid negatively dragging me down from my supposed 'support structure' I am finally able to be happy and enjoy my life without being shamed, harassed, or threatened. I'm also allowed to be proud of my achievements in life, rather than being repeatedly told how horrible and undeserving I am for having achieved them.