Me too, from autism

I wouldn't say it a true work-around, but my father has told us he will not do anything we *demand* of him, but if we make a *request* which he can turn down, he will usually be okay with doing the task. He likes being helpful and appreciated. A "request" from authority or with consequences if he turns it down, does not count.

This may not work for everyone, but it works for our family. And it only works because he's old enough to be near the top of family/social authority. He was a rebellious son and there was no workaround for him to obey his parents.

Hey, could you get on that for me? Thanks bro

I've literally just started calling my mum out on it. I tell her, "I was literally going to, but now I won't out of spite" so that she knows not to do it and that I'm just as petty as her when it comes to being told to do something.

It's actually started to help

Autonomy needs a sense of belonging. So reassuring yourself that you made the choice before being asked.

...might want to keep an eye on the guy in red though. If he assumes your acquiescence too much you'll get "thwarted belonging".

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