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[–] 24 points 1 day ago* (3 children)

Out of respect, I don't quite think you understand how close my mother and I are. Me calling her out on her control tactics and expressing my feelings in response to it isn't the start of a petty war. She laughs and nods. I laugh and nod too.

It's the start of self awareness in breaking a cycle, and she gets what I'm trying to do and respects it.

Often she forgets, because old habits die hard, but it's getting better

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  • [+] -15 points 1 day ago (2 children)

    It's the words you chose to describe your relationship here with her that I'm picking up on.

    “I was literally going to, but now I won’t out of spite”

    Like this would be so deeply unsettling for me to hear from a family member after I've cooked for them. I would be so upset.

    but it’s a hurtful thing where someone you love, thinks the worst of you for no reason.

    You think your mom thinks the worst of you for no reason.

    You know how parents can say things in a way that seem innocuous, but are used as a way to control or denigrate in some small way.

    These statements made me react that way, it sounds so unhealthy and I am sorry your relationship with her is like this.

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