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[–] 67 points 2 days ago (20 children)

Everyone is dealing with something that you don't know about. Be nice.

People on the road especially. Why do they always honk and yell at others who are clearly having some issue with their vehicle? Like they chose to do that...

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  • [–] 39 points 2 days ago (5 children)

    I was helping someone push their vehicle to the gas station once. People were honking at us like it'd make us move faster. So dumb.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

    I had to use a donut tire once when I had a flat, can't go over 35 on those things. Was on the highway. People lost their minds behind me, but I had no other choice, couldn't afford to call a tow truck at the time. I pulled over regularly to let people pass me and limped it home. Felt really bad about getting in people's way. I don't like being perceived because of autism, so of course I had an ugly cry meltdown in my car. There are always two sides to every story and if you jump to conclusions, you're going to be wrong more than right. We need to breed some fucking compassion in this country.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

    I had to drive what was normally a 6 hour drive home with my car stuck in 2nd gear! Couldn't go over about 40. I avoided highways where I could, but if I'd done it the whole way home it would've taken me like 18 hours instead of 9. Most people saw the flashers and understood, but some people didn't seem to understand and honked. I don't get it. I also don't like causing inconvenience but am able to logic my way out of it, as that was my only real option, so people were just gonna have to deal with it.

    P.S. Usually the donuts can go 55mph, though I do realize it's possible your car said otherwise, in which case listen to it, but also that's crazy.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 days ago

    I had that happen, I parked my bike and got the next 2 drivers to come help, since none of us were moving until this car was out of the way. The gas station was literally 20 feet away on the other side of the intersection tho.

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  • [–] 43 points 2 days ago* (9 children)

    If you’re having an issue, put your flashers on and pull to the side.

    Just like how you don’t stop to tie your shoe in the middle of the sidewalk or hallway.

    Also: Yield does not mean stop.

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  • [–] 23 points 2 days ago (3 children)

    Pulling over often isn’t an option, and slowing down more can mean losing momentum and not making the next hill or putting yourself in a more dangerous spot.

    Also: Yield doesn’t mean you have to stop, but if the other lane is busy you need to do whatever it takes to let the other car go. Including stopping.

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  • [–] -2 points 2 days ago (2 children)

    Yes but if the other lane is empty and you stop at a yield you should be arrested for attempted insurance fraud.

    And put on your damn flashers if you’re having issues instead of complaining that people don’t know you’re having issues.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 day ago (1 child)

    I disagree with this. Yes, they shouldn't stop. However, if you hit them then you're clearly at fault. There could be something forcing them to stop and may not realize it, so you not being prepared for them stopping is on you.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

    I haven’t hit anyone who did this. But I have been hit by someone behind me because of this.

    Me and my passengers got neck braces, the driver behind me had to pay, but the idiot who came to a complete stop at a highway onramp didn’t even know what happened, despite them being the reckless driver.

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  • [–] 7 points 2 days ago (3 children)

    "Just pull over, call a tow truck, get the car repaired. Duh!"

    People need to get to work. To, you know, earn the money to pay for the car repair, and food, and such.

    Maybe you've never been in a precarious position where there are no easy answers.

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  • [–] 8 points 2 days ago* (1 child)

    I never said anything about a tow truck or repairs. I said move over and put your flashers on.

    It’s called being considerate. Just like not tying your shoe in the middle of a hallway.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 day ago*

    People need to get to work. To, you know, earn the money to pay for the car repair, and food, and such.

    This can very well apply to the people behind too.

    Anyway, I think "it's not your fault, but it is your responsibility" applies here.

    Personally, I just expect people to have some self-awareness, respect for other people's time, and respect for the two-ton death machines we're all driving around. (Slow drivers can be just as much a safety hazard as fast drivers.) In most cases of driving slowly, putting the hazard lights on is enough to fulfill all the above.

    As an example of a more extreme case, it's customary in my area for vehicles slowing traffic where there are few opportunities to pass to pull off the road periodically to relieve the traffic built up behind them. That's also perfectly understandable.

    The leeway can only go so far though. If you get yourself into a situation where you have to be a significant obstacle for other people and don't at least acknowledge it, it doesn't matter if you're working two jobs and only have 15 minutes to drive between them or whatever. It's your responsibility to make yourself not an obstacle and reasonable for others to take issue with you if you don't.

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  • [–] 23 points 2 days ago (2 children)

    Everyone is dealing with something that you don't know about

    Maybe too personal but shortly after a breakup in 2017 someone flipped me off on the road cause i was a pretty new driver and didn't notice them signaling to merge in front of me and i cried in a parking lot after.

    I didn't know some tiny thing like that could tip me over on the wrong day and i think about it whenever i feel like blaring my horn at someone or whatever

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  • [–] 5 points 2 days ago (1 child)

    I use the "thumbs down" move when I'm mad at someone. Hopefully it gets regarded as a mild rebuke.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 day ago*

    Yeah, when I was a kid I'd flip people off and whatnot but as I've grown older I've just realized it usually isn't worth getting angry. Usually I just don't even react.

    I did get angry when someone else nearly hit a pedestrian, the pedestrian cursed them out in Spanish, then they said, I kid you not, "Calm down, I didn't see you!" I was on my motorcycle and hollered "No shit you didn't see them!" Just a crazy thing to say after nearly hitting someone with your 2 ton hunk of hurtling metal.

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