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[–] 4 points 2 days ago

As others have said, you don't deal with it.

It hurts. It is supposed to hurt. It will hurt for a while, a LONG while.

But over time it will hurt less. It will consume less of your time as days go by. And after a while it will be only the occasional flare-up.

With that said it's important not to implode. Not to let grief, the attached guilt (there's always guilt with loss - the what-ifs, the why-did-i-nots, and so on) consume you. Seek out company from family and friends. Try to occupy your free time so you're not just spinning in your own head aimlessly wallowing.

Also try to refocus things. Mourn the loss, but try to remember the good things. It is important to remember what you lost, but remember it as something you had instead.

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