Imagine that your body is like a metal detector, but instead of making noise it makes emotions. Excitement is the primary signal that you're going in the right direction. Fear is a secondary signal. If you do something because you are afraid of something else, that's the wrong direction usually. If you do something because it excites you, that's the right direction. Sometimes, if you are afraid of something that's the thing you should do (lean into the fear).

This is how you "figure it out". There is no framework, there is no rubric. Everything you can be told from the outside is already outdated. The clearest most accurate signal will always come directly from your experience of your body