This is it. Whether you're right for each other or not, you're not going to know until you actually talk with each other. That means expressing feelings and listen to theirs. Finding the middle ground to help each other. Why are there misunderstandings so much? Agree on a signal that you've hit one of those points, so rather than one or both get angry and hurt, you both can stop and look at what's going on to cause it. And just be honest with each other, say what you're thinking, not what they and you want to hear.