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Married people, how do you make it work? (beehaw.org)
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We've been trying to make things work, and some days it feels easier than others. But lately, it feels almost impossible. The constant misunderstandings, the short tempers, the emotional exhaustion, it all starts to take a toll. We're both trying, yet somehow we keep finding ourselves in the same place, feeling drained and disconnected. How do you make things work when even trying starts to feel exhausting?

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[–] 24 points 6 days ago (1 child)

sounds cliché, but honest communication. i've been married 20+ years and whenever our relationship is struggling it's generally because thoughts and feelings are not being openly addressed. take time together in a quiet spot and try to be vulnerable.

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  • [–] 13 points 6 days ago

    This is it. Whether you're right for each other or not, you're not going to know until you actually talk with each other. That means expressing feelings and listen to theirs. Finding the middle ground to help each other. Why are there misunderstandings so much? Agree on a signal that you've hit one of those points, so rather than one or both get angry and hurt, you both can stop and look at what's going on to cause it. And just be honest with each other, say what you're thinking, not what they and you want to hear.

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