Hi,

Thank you so much for the long, thought out response.

She already knows a lot about all of the different facets of what is going to happen to her as she has been through it all already. She had breast cancer 16 years ago and back then they took a similar approach of using zoladex to basically switch off her ovaries and force her into a menopausal state, stopping the production of estrogen which is what the cancer is feeding on in the hopes to basically starve it. Because of this she is not only well read kn the subject but has lived through it all already so knows what to expect.

She can't do HRT or any supplements because of the nature of the fact that it is to fight cancer and it won't necessarily be the exact same as your "traditional menopause"

So this reading is more for me to be prepared, to have a good basis of what will be going on for her so that I can have a good understanding of both what is happening inside of her body and also to get some idea of what may be going on in her mind so that I can better be prepared to help support her with what ever she might need at the time.

The original cancer was when she was just 24 and as such the transition into that state was very harsh seeing as she was at peak estrogen production going into a state of basically none so we were told that everything will have been more intense back then because of the drastic change in levels. Not to say that it won't be absolutely miserable for her this time either but hopefully it will at least be slightly less pronounced than it was for her back then.

I'm just trying to be there as best I can so I intend to make sure she knows that I am here to support her in what ever way she feels she needs at the time be that to talk, have a hug or leave her alone I just think having a knowledge of what is going on will help me understand things like the mood swings a little better.

I'm not ever going to be able to relate to it on a personal level, I just hope that I can be someone that she can lean on and rely on in what is going to be a very hard time for her.

I will check out as many of these books I can find as well as other people suggestions in the hope that I can at least make it a little better by having someone who is there for her no matter what.

Thanks again for the detailed response and I will search the community and subscribe so that I can follow along with what you post even if I can't contribute in any meaningful way.

Have a great day!