Then you find yourself remembering that you accepted what feels like it was an important meeting yesterday, but want to remember when and have a hard time finding it because you can't quite recall enough searchable detail, but you know it came up yesterday.

Also, if you are this brain-dead you can disable delete after accept, in settings

True but if its not in the next few weeks its a pain to track down

And then you have to open calendar, find it among all te rest with whatever name, find the email l button in the expansed view and reply there if anything changes. It sucks.