I somewhat recognize my own position in the message above and to me it's not so much about not being a feminist, as it is that I've seen too many people calling themselves feminist while proceeding to do things like: call all men pigs, be transphobic, generally try to push down others in an attempt to rise themselves. If by feminist you mean "for equality between men and women (and all others)", then sure I can agree to that, but I'm not sure that's the best way to describe that position anymore

Well TERFs are feminists.

Humanist egalitarianism is a (I hope) clear stance on human rights for all and social measures to address inequality for anyone based on their individual circumstances.

It’s not a view that is clear from feminism where you for example have liberal feminism, libertarian feminism and egalitarian feminism.

There are deacdes of ideology built up within different feminist beliefs that require nuance to differentiate, and misteps associated with some of those movements that I don’t feel the need to associate with.