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[–] 29 points 18 hours ago (13 children)

That’s not hope. If anything, it’s spite. Hope is what we tell ourselves to convince ourselves some uncertainty might not be so bad.

I hope the girl I like likes me back.

I hope I don’t oversleep in the morning and miss my interview.

I hope this comment won’t be lost on the readers.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 hour ago*

    Hope is an attempt to fight off the idea of hopelesness, which is itself an illusion. So hope is not only an illusion in the second degree, but the very thing that keeps hopelessness from being exposed. It is no wonder that Hope was the greatest curse to escape Pandora's Box.

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  • [–] 21 points 17 hours ago (10 children)

    To add to that, hope is the opposite of fear. Every "I hope" statement can be rephrased as an "I'm afraid" statement.

    I'm afraid she doesn't like me back.

    I'm afraid I'll oversleep.

    I'm afraid this comment will be lost on the readers.

    It's important to maintain the "I hope" mindset.

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  • [–] -2 points 17 hours ago (9 children)

    I disagree with maintaining the “I hope” mindset. It’s as dangerous as “I’m afraid,” if not more so.

    Admittedly, my perception is based on my personal experiences, and I must add the obligatory YMMV.

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  • [–] 14 points 17 hours ago* (4 children)

    I hope you're wrong.

    To give a real answer, "I hope" leads to action. "I'm afraid" leads to inaction. Action is required to progress. Inaction is required to regress.

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  • i'd like to respond to this. both hope and fear are real motivators and can lead to both action and inaction, depending on what you're talking about. examples from my own life: hope leaves [people who should really move on or re-evaluate] "stuck in the friend-zone" in relationships. i "invented" a cheap, shitty musical instrument out of (temporarily realized) fear i'd lose access to my expensive one.

    i don't feel like most emotions themselves are good or bad, it's what you do with them.

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  • [–] 4 points 15 hours ago

    See, I think you have that backwards. "I'm afraid" is an active, albiet negative, emotion, and drives you to find a solution, whether that's running away or turning and facing your fear. "I hope" is entirely passive, you just want the universe to drop your desired outcome in your lap. I see hope as the killer of striving, of trying to make things better. A better positive view is to ask "what can I do to make my desired outcome more likely?" It's not quite as pithy as "I hope...", but it encourages action, rather tgan passivity. Obviously there are some things we don't have any control over, and for those, all we have is hope.

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  • [–] 1 point 17 hours ago

    I hope I’m wrong too.

    But for me, I learned that to hope is to not take responsibility, and thus my inaction. So now, I have to “do” and not rely on “hope”. Because for me, there is no invisible hand to do things for me. There is only me. And if I do something, there is no need for hope.

    I hope that makes sense. 😉

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  • [–] 6 points 17 hours ago (3 children)

    What's that whole thing, anxiety is fear of the future and regret is fear of the past. I think if you're able to do your best controlling those, you're doing well.

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  • [–] 2 points 17 hours ago

    I love this sentiment. And I agree wholeheartedly.

    I try to reverse those though: anxiety is the fear the past will repeat itself, and regret keeps me from making the same mistakes again.

    It’s twisted, but it’s working.

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  • [–] 2 points 17 hours ago* (1 child)

    I've never regretted anything I've done. I only regret the things I didn't do, the thing I didn't say, the feelings I didn't express.

    My mistakes were required to grow and learn. They're part of me and don't define me; we're all better than our worst mistakes.

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