I'm not saying you' re wrong that women don't like to approach men online. Bumble says 2/3s of women they surveyed said they don't want to do it (which does leave 1/3, so you can update your extreme statement)....

But to calm your aggravation, maybe you could do a little thought experiment and see if you can't find some reason other than women suck.

So, for instance, let's presume the #1 problem women have with online dating is that men are mostly interested in sex. It seems to be a very common complaint, so this is plausible.

SO what happens when a woman makes the first move, is that she is giving some horny guy hope. A guy might say, " well, i don't think she's attractive or interesting, but maybe there's a chance she'll fuck me on our first date." And that's not a great position to be in for a woman who is interested in a relationship.

Maybe the reason women don't make the first move is to lower the odds that they'll go on a date with a guy who has absolutely ZERO interest in her at all other than as a hole.

And this is not a conversation we're allowed to have so much any more, because it implies that men are more interested in sex and women are more interested in relationships, and, despite this being the pretty obvious statistical truth driving why online dating is so shitty, this view is considered gender-essentialist.