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[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Other people see you differently than you see yourself. And you wouldn't necessarily realize you were part of the autism tribe because as far as you were concerned, everyone is in the same tribe as you. You wouldn't really know what it was like to experience things with a different tribe's mental wiring. Just like I didn't really figure out that my brain literally worked differently than 95+% of the population (ADHD) until I was very thoroughly an adult.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

because as far as you were concerned, everyone is in the same tribe as you

I definitely don't think that way. I'm aware that I am different from other people.

Reposting from my other comment:

Well I had the luxury of dating a psychologist who specializes in diagnoses and her brother is autistic - so she is very aware of autism and how it works and what it looks like in different people.

She confirmed I'm not autistic and thought it was hilarious that anyone would assume that about me. She's known me for years and she has experience in that field. She knows better than just randoms at a meet up group would.