I don’t really know where to ask this.

I need to work on my self-esteem issues, a lot of which are caused by my home life. I’m “not logical”, clumsy, dumb, not smart, etc.

But they call me smart when it comes to my schoolwork as in, “You’re smart, you can do your work.” When I’m stressed.

My family wants me to be perfect and I’m just not.

They make jokes when I’m upset, and when I’m upset or try to tell them, I’m “too sensitive” and they go on about how insecure and how weak I am.

I broke up with my partner. They said I was too sensitive and insecure because I was upset about having to block the person. One of them laughed and said “You’re still upset?” When it happened 30 minutes before they said that.

Even my sister puts me down or calls me names sometimes to fit in.

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[–] [S] 4 points 21 hours ago (1 child)

why thank you!! i understand. just got out of a toxic relationship with someone who has bpd.

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  • [–] 3 points 17 hours ago

    My wife had a bad family life and a bipolar best friend. It was really bad for her, decades later she is much better.

    Ultimately what helped her is a ratio thing. She introduced more people in her life that are not assholes. Her father to this day is verbally abusive as an adult, but a lot of the things he says now that would have made her break down as a teenager, now brush off her. This js only possible, because she has plenty of people around her that tell her the opposite.

    Building up a community of support is the foundation to a better life. She rarely interacts with her family anymore by choice, but she has plenty of people around her who love her.

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