I don’t really know where to ask this.

I need to work on my self-esteem issues, a lot of which are caused by my home life. I’m “not logical”, clumsy, dumb, not smart, etc.

But they call me smart when it comes to my schoolwork as in, “You’re smart, you can do your work.” When I’m stressed.

My family wants me to be perfect and I’m just not.

They make jokes when I’m upset, and when I’m upset or try to tell them, I’m “too sensitive” and they go on about how insecure and how weak I am.

I broke up with my partner. They said I was too sensitive and insecure because I was upset about having to block the person. One of them laughed and said “You’re still upset?” When it happened 30 minutes before they said that.

Even my sister puts me down or calls me names sometimes to fit in.

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[–] [S] 6 points 21 hours ago (1 child)

That's true. Unfortunately, I can't move out. I don't have a job and I'm a teenager still in high school.

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  • [–] 8 points 21 hours ago

    I'm a lot older than you are, and I've never met anyone who told me they were happy in high school.

    Here's something that might help. When I was almost thirty I was on workers' comp after a job related injury. I'd never liked any job I'd ever had, and thought it was because I was some kind of misfit.

    Someone pointed me at a book called 'Discover What You Are Best At' by Linda Gale.

    It's a series of self tests you can knock off in an afternoon. The rest of the book lists all the jobs that your skills are goodfor.

    For example, a hair stylist, a paramedic, and a product demonstrator all need good dexterity and good people skills. Three completely different jobs with the same skill set.

    Also, they list jobs with different levels of training. You can become an Emergency Medical Technician in a few months, a nurse in a couple of years, and a doctor in eight years.

    Having a job where you fit in amkes a lot of life's other problems a lot more manageable.

    Good luck.

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