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Anon does nothing (thelemmy.club)
submitted 2 days ago by [M] to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works
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[–] 36 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I feel like there's only so much blame you can put onto a single person for their situation before you wonder what the hell is going on with their parents/guardians?

Because someone in their mid-20s having no basic life skills cannot be blamed purely on Anon. Either their parents are neglecting them, or coddling them to the point of sabotage.

Having said all that, if Anon is articulate enough to write all of this - then they've got a high enough IQ to at the very least try to do something about their situation, even if its just doing volunteer work for a while to build up some basic skills.

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  • [–] -2 points 1 day ago (1 child)

    I don't get why it is parents responsibility if they are 24 and dont have any disabilities. Isn't it only parents jobs to take care of you till you are 18.

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  • [–] 13 points 1 day ago (1 child)

    Being a parent is a life long job that you chose when you had a kid, so that latter take is wild.

    But in any case, even if I agreed with you, do you not believe parents have a responsibility to teach their children basic life skills? You brought a kid into the world, you should at the very least teach it how to look after itself.

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  • [–] -2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

    Honestly your take feels wild to me as well. Sure you should teach your kids how to take care themselves, but at some point they are an adult and have to take the responsibility for their own lives.

    If people don't have to take personal responsibility what stops them from taking advantage of it? Like you could have the best parents, but claim they messed you up, so refuse to work and leech of them for the rest of your life.

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  • [–] 3 points 20 hours ago (1 child)

    Yes, I do agree that you have a level of personal responsibility towards yourself - and that you owe it to yourself to make the best of the hand you're dealt.

    But turning 18 doesn't suddenly absolve your parents of their failings. If they failed to teach Anon the basic life skills that would help them to be a proper member of society, then that is still their failure - even if it is a failure being further exacerbated by Anon themselves.

    As @some_kind_of_guy@lemmy.world said, your last paragraph negates itself...

    A good parent would've forced Anon to learn those skills, and wouldn't just stand-by going "they're an adult now, not my problem" - nor would they coddle them and allow them to be a NEET. Both are forms of neglectful parenting, as I said its a lifetime job.

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  • [–] 4 points 23 hours ago (1 child)

    Having "the best parents" would preclude that possibility, though. Your "what-if" is a non-sequitur, it doesn't follow.

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  • [–] 1 point 19 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

    Each person is the result of their genetics, upbringing, friend circle, life experiences etc. Having the best parents doesn't guarantee you turning out well.

    Also nothing personal but using big words like this when you can express it much simpler, comes off very pretentious.

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