well, thank you for accepting me where I am.
It definitely weighs on me, but what is to be done? I hate abusers. I hate bigots. I don't think any amount of thinking about it is going to make me not hate someone who inflicts such pain and suffering on someone else. I've had a few thoughts to, make it less, or justify their thoughts and behavior somehow but they clearly were not enough. I used to give people more credit.