"Men" as a "political community" is entirely a fabrication. Reality does not conform to the social constructs you are trying to impose upon it. This may come as a shock to you, but most men do not actually know each other.

In the last US presidential election, 45% of women voted for Trump even after all of the misogynist shit he's done, and 45% of men literally voted for a woman to be president (not including non-voters of course). A slight statistical trend, but certainly not enough to be able to predict who an individual woukd vote for based on gender alone.

Gender is a spectrum (or more correctly, a collection of a lot of traits, most of which are their own individual spectrums). That is not something I can selectively believe is true whenever I want to support my trans/nonbinary/gender fluid friends ans just conveniently ignore whenever it makes me feel good.

Racists absolutely love to cite statistics about violent crime in predominantly black communities. Do we say "good black people need to do a better job of holding the bad ones accountable?" Absolutely not, because that's prejudiced ans ridiculous.

If one trans woman sexually assaults a cis woman in a public restroom and JK Rowling starts howling about it... What do we do? Do we demonize all trans women, or even all trans people entirely? Do we start doing genital checks in toilets? Do we start to become afraid of trans people as a "political community"? What if it were more than one case? How many cases does it take for it to become a problem? The answer is: the question itself is fundamentally transphobic and invalid.

I think most progressives get it: its unreasonable to generalize individuals by their identies and pre-judge based on things they cannot control. However, there always seem to be some people who have a problem with that and want to hate others as a sort of "revenge". Right now it's in fashion to hate on men. In the past it's been white people, which I find particularly funny because "whiteness" itself is an incredibly recent concept and many "white" people in the US today would not have even been considered "white" 100 years ago. I've heard the occasional hate against straight and cis people.

Age is another one I see. People love to hate on Boomers, but most of the evil people destroying the world aren't Boomers. Trump, Biden, Obama, both Clintons, Bernie, McConnell, Peloso, Graham... All Silent Generation. JD Vance is a millennial. Elon Musk is Gen X (though it's even less relevant outside the US). Plenty of boomers are cool as fuck and have spent their lives fighting oppression to make the world a better place, while plenty of people from every "generation" have been shitty. The simple fact is that such generalizations are meaningless.