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[–] 39 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (22 children)

raises hand

I may be obnoxious on Hexbear, but you guys see a side of me I keep hidden from most people

Unfortunately I've recently started being medicated for ADHD and while holy shit it has changed my life for the better, it's also removed a lot of my filter, so I'm having to learn to be comfortable with being myself and not everyone liking that

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  • [–] 25 points 1 month ago

    I may be obnoxious on Hexbear, but you guys see a side of me I keep hidden from most people

    Startin to feel like it might be a widespread experience to be silent and reserved irl and loud as hell (positive connotation) online.

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  • [–] 21 points 1 month ago* (1 child)

    Memories of being a kid and my mum telling me to shut up cos i talk too much and slowly being conditioned into someone that never says anything. Then get the opposite problem of people criticising my lack of saying anything and it makes me wish every NT on the planet would explode so I can spend 1 minute of my life not being ruthlessly judged for every single action.

    I am too learning to be ok that not everyone will like my real self but this guy at work i literally live rent free in his head and i seem to have people who like viscerally hate me and i didnt really do anything other than exist. Its perturbing to say the least.

    With the other adhders i do meet irl conversations with them will ever increase in volume until we’re basically yelling at each other and then once done (after like 4 straight hours) will feel very good and basically fall in love. Its such a consistent handshake its actually kind of scary

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  • [–] 18 points 1 month ago (13 children)

    Oh yeah, a lot of people do not actually like to hear it as it is

    This is why I keep to my immediate family and friends

    Extended family did not like to hear about how shitty they were

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  • [–] 21 points 1 month ago (12 children)

    For me it's less that, and more that if I don't stop myself I get too intensely hyperfixated on a certain topic and people can find that overwhelming or weird.

    Like Dort we just said hello, we don't need to know the entire history of beekeeping and how you relate to bees on an emotional level

    Also I suck at knowing when a conversation is over

    Also I talk about myself too much

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  • [–] 17 points 1 month ago* (6 children)

    Tell us about the bees!

    This is a bee that landed on me in vietnam.

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  • [–] 18 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    That looks like a wasp! Maybe a paper wasp or a mud daubler of some kind

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  • [–] 14 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Wasps get such a bad reputation, its always like "I destroyed this wasps home and killed its family, but it stung me, I am the victim".

    I've literally had wasps hang out for hours as I dug a big hole less than a foot from its nest and not get aggro until I accidentally flung dirt on its nest.

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  • People are amazed when i tell them about the anti-wasp infrastructure i have installed; get this, its a big-ass garden! There are so many species of bees and wasps that hang out in the garden and, even when I'm working in it, they really couldn't care less about me.

    I wonder if there's some correlation between denying a being food and housing and treating it with violence on sight, and it being in a constant state of fight or flight thonk-cri

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    I kinda miss being a beekeeper, if I had even a little space I'd consider setting up a hive or two as a hobby. Alas I'm in an apartment & none of my family will let me set up a hive in their backyards

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    How many houseplants do you need to sustain a hive?

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    More than fit in my apartment, bees search a wide area around their hives (~2 miles if I'm remembering right) for plants to harvest nectar/pollen from. If I had a backyard I could do some urban beekeeping especially since I'm near some nice green space but I feel like my building would have something to say if I set up a hive on my balcony (though I have been tempted)

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  • [–] 13 points 1 month ago (4 children)

    Hey, I just started ADHD meds myself! I'm glad it's working for you!

    It's been weird seeing my brain focus on things, and stop bouncing around all the time.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 month ago* (3 children)

    It actually made me angry that I couldn't afford it sooner (because up until recently you had to see a psych every time you needed a script and thats very expensive), because I had no idea just how much easier things are when you don't have to battle exectutive dysfunction. Like holy shit you mean this is how other people can just get things done? Why did I have to do things the hard way for so long?

    I have gotten so much shit done, even simple things like self care and eating right are so much easier now.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Which meds/dosage if you don’t mind me asking?

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