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[โ€“] 9 points 2 months ago* (12 children)

Its worse than ever, also because people don't seem to realize it's technology that is keeping them alone. You cant connect and make friends over "social" media or Lemmy or whatever. It's just spending time to feel less alone. It will never cure it.

You are alone because you don't dare to go out into the real world and try to meet people. At least for guys, we can connect over some activity pretty easily, like pool or billiards. Just need to do it.

There is also meetup site to go on random events with strangers. It can work, or at least make you sick of people for a while if it doesn't work. :)

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  • [โ€“] 3 points 2 months ago (2 children)

    My research in school was exactly this, I set out to prove people on social media lacked social connection irl. What I found out was the opposite, the more people were trying to connect online directly correlated to connecting more offline. Some people just seem to crave those connections anywhere they can get it.

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  • [โ€“] 2 points 2 months ago

    No surprise, no surprise whatsoever. We are all evolved to desire community & connection. I realise Lemmy has a large share of those that reject conventional community (myself included), so no criticism. But it's natural to desire these things (to varying extents), plus many people are just plain sycophantic if course!

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  • [โ€“] 1 point 2 months ago (2 children)

    I doubt it's a real friendship. I define it as someone who will actually care about you. Someone who will show up at your door if you need help, or when something difficult happens to you.

    Its rare with actual friendship in the world too. People are mostly just colleagues at work.

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  • [โ€“] 1 point 2 months ago*

    Sure but most people are npcs... :)

    I dont mean that literally, I just mean that they just don't have the consciousness to think about these things.

    You are right about people mostly using eachother for their needs. But that's something we can try to rise above, if we are aware of it.

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  • [โ€“] 1 point 2 months ago (3 children)

    And why can't you go out into the real world and meet anybody?

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  • [โ€“] 1 point 2 months ago (2 children)

    Fear of things. It's always fear that is blocking people.

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  • [โ€“] 1 point 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 child)

    People must forget what they've read, forget what they've seen, and forget what they imagine to be and go out and live. Go to the store, go see a band, go to a museum, go for a walk. You'll find most people want to be kind and good and help each other.

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