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Reliable messenger for family use? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 days ago by anakin78z@lemmy.world to c/selfhosted@lemmy.world

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Hello,

I've been self hosting Nextcloud for the last half a year, and my family has been using Nextcloud Talk to communicate. However, as cool it is overall, we suffer from a lot of missed messages. I've been keeping an eye on (and contributing to) the Android app, but even with all the updates, it seems like they can't quite figure out the issue with notifications not appearing consistently. My wife is fed up, so I'm looking for alternatives.

It seems like Matrix is the next logical one to try, but the Android apps have pretty poor reviews. A lot of the self hosted messengers also seem to be more like Slack replacements, rather than focused on family & friend use.

Has anyone had a good experience with a self hosted messenger for family use?

Thanks!

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[-] Tolstoy@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago

Buddy is selfhostig Matrix via Element server suite community edition and using element X on android as well as the normal element app on desktop. Never missed a notification, never

[-] cultist@feddit.dk 1 points 2 days ago

I have seen some bad reactions to Matrix from people, like them harassing others or focusing mainly on their paid customers.

Matrix is what I believe most in currently, but Fluxer might also be a good alternative in the future.

[-] suzune@ani.social 2 points 3 days ago

I've been using Synapse with Element X (earlier Element) for years. I remember, notifications were a problem some time ago, but it got a lot better. I also have ntfy as notification backend.

With Element X there are finally video conferences possible.

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