not necessarily. a lot of people date people based on potential, and they will leave or stay if that potential manifests.
at least, that's how it used to be. true in 2026 that people increasingly want 'it all' from the get go. which is why folks are so miserable. if you are 25 and expect to date someone making 200K a year, you are going to have a bad time. you should be dating someone who makes 50K who will be making 200K in 10-20 years.
So on and so on. a lot of people are very different physically over the years too. one of my major conflicts in dating was I was trying to improve myself, and my girlfriends didn't want to do that, and resented me for it. they didn't want to eat well, exercise, or invest in themselves. They wanted to just sit around and drink and veg out and thought I was a jerk for wanting to be active and healthy.
Anyway, I'm single now but I'm very healthy, active, and financially secure. most ladies I meet on the dating market are maybe 1 of those three, and they demand a man be all and he has to be jacked and fashionable. It's wild how folks demand so much from others but so little from themselves.