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As a 50+ yo that cut contact with his parents decades ago, I know that you can most definitely move out. I am aware that many of my negative behaviors were formed in my early years due in large part to my upbringing but there came a point in my life where I was aware they were due in totality to me choosing to continue those behaviors. Although I will never be confused with a saint, I'm a much better person and my choices in how I behave have absolutely nothing to do with my upbringing. The old building with the bad foundation hasn't been part of my life for decades.
The analogy is the embodiment of victim mentality, meant to help a person feel powerless regarding why they make poor choices. Staying in that building is a choice each person makes. It's not a prison.
In the metaphor, the house is you. You can't move to a new house, you are always you.
If your interpretation of the metaphor is correct, it's an even worse metaphor than originally thought. "Your life can be compared to a chocolate candy bar. You can never get rid of the candy bar, you will always have it and you absolutely must partake of the candy bar whether you like chocolate or not, your only option is that you can bite from the other end of the candybar. Because metaphor."
Sadly, we have to work with the metaphors we're given. In the case of the fictional house with many floors, I can most definitely move from it to escape a shitty foundation. You, it seems, can not. I can't help you with your house, I can only worry about mine. Best of luck on your house.
There is no correct really, its all up to our interpretation. Its a form of storytelling. It can be hopeful to me and upsetting to you, and thats alright. Make up your own story and tell us about it.
You can find new role models, you can build new supports for those weaker floors and maybe even completely renovate some of them with enough work. You can theorize the new floors you want to build and rework your existing floors to get there.