Some women are for the patriarchy.
Sometimes, an "Are you gay" from a woman even is a "why are you not fucking me"; be it subconsciously, or a conscious flirty challenge.
Sometimes, it's a "My man would never do anything like that and other man shouldn't make him look bad in comparison". Although I guess that's the patriarchy thing again. Just like red pill podcast pickmes.
Of course all doesn't matter, you could be the most effeminate man in the world - as long as you're attracted to women, there's no question.