I wish people would stop trying to fix me. I've tried sex. It doesn't work for me. I'm much happier in a relationship where that isn't a factor. But some people will always insist that I just need x y or z. Over the years I've grown disdainful of Mazlowes Heirachry of Needs since sex is listed as a need, so CLEARLY I need it, gets (incorrectly) cited to me all the time.

Ace person here. "You just need to find the right person" and variations of that are something we often get.

On the more malicious end of the spectrum, you get stuff like "you just need a good fucking first"

There are also people who feel that ace people should not be included in queer pride or have their own flag/identity.

"Corrective" rape has been used on ace people, for being ace.

Structurally our societies are usually oriented around people finding romantic life partners, and the state recognizes and makes life easier for people in these relationships. Modern life, especially with the current housing shit going on in North America, is much harder if your preferred way to live is a single income person living alone. This definitely disadvantages aro/ace people, though I’m not sure I’d call it discrimination.

Tangentially related, but I can’t miss an opportunity to bring up Elizabeth Brake’s really interesting paper, Minimizing Marriage. If the whole thing looks a little long I’d recommend reading at least chapter 7 to get the heart of her proposal, it’s a real eye opener.